Willard Harley, the author of His Needs Her Needs, has written a follow up book discussing the insights and techniques for building and sustaining the feeling of love in marriage. The name of this book is Fall In Love Stay In Love. The objective for this book is to help people fall in love by learning how to meet each others needs, and it goes further by showing what habits to avoid in order to stay in love.This book has very realistic concepts because Harley is speaking from experience. He is a marriage counselor and has used his philosophy on bringing couples together in a loving relationship many times. If a family were to take the steps provided in his book, there is a good chance they will benefit from them. Dr. Harley understands that there are people involved in a number of problems when it comes to marriage. He says, “Granted, poor communication, failure to resolve conflicts, and fighting all contribute to the loss of love. But these are also symptoms of lost love. In other words, I began to realize that if I wanted to save marriages, I would have to go beyond improving communication. I would have to learn how to restore love”. He does not look at the problems that are visible on the outside, but realizes that these problems are caused by something much deeper than simply bad attitudes or consistent mistakes. There is one idea the author has though that may turn the reader away from the book. This idea is that love is not a mystery. To some people this idea of love being a mystery may create some problems. The way people have viewed love since a very young age tells them that love is nothing less than magical. People that grew up in the American culture can easily be turned off by the idea that love is predictable, but for Willard Harley this is the only way he can be a successful marriage counselor. He says, “Most people regard the feeling of love as one of life’s great and wonderful mys...
