Fighting Has Its Positive and Negative Views In response to George Bach's claim, I confute that fighting under any circumstance is unwarranted and unhealthy. In order to have a healthy sexual relationship, there must be conflict and there must be love. Love and war go together hand in hand. A healthy sexual relationship consists of many factors, such as communication, love, and sex. And with these factors, fighting would often transpire due to differences that people tend to view differently. Fighting can be healthy and beneficial in a sexual relationship, but an overabundance can be detrimental to its survival. According to George Bach's rules on healthy fighting, some rules to consider when fighting are to leave out physical and emotional abuse. Although both are unacceptable behaviors, emotional abuse is the greater of the two evils. Physical abuse causes bodily injuries which may include broken bones and scars, however, they eventually will resolve with time. Emotional abuse, on the other hand, leaves no physical scars, but the mental anguish can last a lifetime leading to a vicious cycle with future relationships. It was also stated and recommended to not bring up issues in the past which have no relevance to the current argument. This type of fighting only makes more problems for the parties involved. Prior to my present relationship, my ex-girlfriend would constantly bring up things I did in the past to an argument that we were having in the present. For example, I once brought up the idea that my ex-girlfriend go shopping with my best friend because I really like the way she dressed. Overtime, my ex-girlfriend began to develop thoughts and insecurities toward my best friend because she believed I put my best friend on a pedestal. This led to constant arguing and fights between us because in her mind, I was cheating on her and she had no trust in me. Eventually, my ex-girlfriend and I talked about our problem an...
